Self-esteem doesn’t come from blowing kisses to your reflection in the mirror or repeating “I love myself” over and over.
From my personal experiences, and my years spent writing about relationships, I’ve learned that poor self-esteem is the number one cause of unhealthy relationships, as well as the top relationship killer.
It’s a lot easier for a man to take out a carefree, responsibility free, baggage free, wrinkle free 28-year-old, which is why so many men try to go in that direction. Men want much younger women, but rarely do much younger women want older men.
Put another way, if a woman has an array of other quality options closer to her age range, what incentives would she have to date a man who is SEVENTEEN YEARS OLDER? Before any 40 people get all hot and bothered about this – I am not judging. I do think people improve with age (my wife is nodding). She doesn’t need a guy who will be taking Viagra when she’s sexually peaking at 43..
They tend to be untainted by experiences that have hardened older women. A younger woman seems more willing to let things take their natural course.” — Roger, 37, New York, NY The ego boost helps me maintain my health and vitality “When a guy reaches a certain age, he worries he will see his youth and vitality wane.
For example, when a woman’s been lied to a lot after years of dating, she always thinks that you’re lying to her, too. Younger women are less cynical, and that’s a big draw.” — Alan*, 52, New York, NY Dating without an agenda means having more fun together “What makes a younger woman a good catch? She’s interested in the here and now, in going out, in having fun. A younger woman reaffirms for me that I’ve still got it going on.” — Mike, 48, Orlando, FL Impressing a younger date is easier “One advantage of dating a younger woman is that you can play ‘cruise director’ — i.e., show her all your secret favorite places that she probably hasn’t experienced yet.